We received response from our agency on whether or not we should go forward with asking the province for another amendment (ugh!).
Our agency contacted CCAA (China Center for Adoption Affairs) and asked them where our file was in the process. They told her that everything is done...but apparently our file has been sitting in the financial department due to a money order that we sent last November (yes, that's right...2005), that apparently is no good for some reason. Can you believe this...yes...another delay. So tomorrow, we have to rush a money order to our agency to replace the old one, as she is going to China on Tuesday and plans to rectify the situation then. So not a big one...she's going to fix it for us.
She said we should receive TA soon!
She will push for things to happen soon for us so that we can travel in October before Mei Lin is 20 months, as this would avoid us having to deal with the province again for yet another amendment. (you all know how that went last time) (province only approved us for a child 20 months "at time of placement".)
She asked if we wanted to wait (I know, I know) so that we could travel at the same time as the other family that is adopting the other little girl in Mei Lin's orphanage (the one in the picture). This would be great for their transition into their new environments...and I know that is the best for the girls...but, do we really want to take the risk of dealing with the province again? It took them forever to do the last amendment or should I say amendmentsssss. We've been through so much, I am terrified to go down that road again as I am afraid it will set us up again for other delays. But I would so love for these girls to be adopted together. And that's what it's all about...these two little girls.
So help me out here people...what do we do? To wait or not to wait? We have to make a decision quickly as the lady at our agency is going to CCAA on Tuesday. She said that she will not push for things to happen quickly if we decide to wait. This one is tugging on my heart!
Help!!
Oh, by the way...the baby shower was wonderful...I will post about it later, when I calm down!
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OMG, okay, my immediate instinct is for you to go to China ASAP. I know it would be wonderful for Mei Lin to stay with her friend until they are both adopted, but I think it is MOST important that Mei Lin get her to be with her parents as soon as possible. I'm sure there are other little children that will help fill the void for this little girl and realistically, all of our children leave someone behind at the orphanage. I hope I'm not sounding insensitive, as I can certainly understand your situation here. And the province? We don't want to go there...I really feel like it's best that you go as soon as china give you the okay. Do we know when Mei Lin's friend will be adopted? How long would you have to wait? I think you've been through enough. Just my two cents. Hope you work through this important decision...ofcourse I would understand your choice either way. Hugs to you!
Follow the voice in your heart!
If it were me "I'd git"! You have waited long enough! Sooner or later you will have to deal with Mei Lin being seperated from her friend either way it will be hard for her to deal with being away from the orphange so if it were me I'd not let her suffer twice.
But as Carolyn said that's just my two cents.
*HUGABUGS*
Listen to your heart....I agree this is a tough decision and you do have to think about Mei Lin and what would be best for her. Do you know when Mei Lin's friend will be adopted? You could always stay in contact with her family via pictures and stuff after she is a adopted.....
You will make the best decision for Mei Lin....Your heart will lead you in the RIGHT way!!!
~~HUGS~~
go get your girl!
angele
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